Wednesday, September 01, 2010

Lessons learned in my 46 years

For my 46th birthday, I decided to list lessons I learned over the years. These are lessons I learned on my own and from others.  They are lessons I try to instill in my daughter. This is how I try to live my life.
  1. It doesn't matter what others think about you. If you're being the best person you can be, that's all that matters.
  2. Laugh every day
  3. There are no regrets in my life, only lessons learned. (Okay, I regret starting to smoke cigarettes and hate it and it's hard to quit, but I learned a lesson-smoking sucks)
  4. If you throw crap in the air and look up, it'll hit you smack in the face.  Lesson here, don't throw crap in the air.
  5. Don't hate.  I don't hate anyone.  Hate is not a word that is allowed to be used in our home
  6. Tell your spouse/significant other/partner you love them every day
  7. Tell your kids you love them every day.
  8. Don't be a follower, be your own person
  9. In life, you have only a handful of true friends, the rest are acquaintances
  10. "I can't" is not acceptable, you can accomplish anything if you try, think positive
  11. Money might make life easier, but it doesn't necessarily make it better
  12. Stand up for what you believe in
  13. Love yourself for who you are
  14. Aging sucks, but it's better than the alternative
  15. Treat others how you want to be treated
  16. Laugh every day (a repeat, but in our household, we all have a sense of humor and can laugh at ourselves)
  17. Try to avoid being judgmental. It's not an easy thing to do, it's human nature, but make yourself aware and put yourself in that persons shoes and once you are aware, you can stop yourself
  18. Accept people for who they are and don't try to change them.
  19. Be happy and smile, it's contagious.
  20. Life is what you make it.  Some disappointments are unavoidable, but happen and when they do, move on. 
Without laughter and love, life would be plain boring.  I have a great husband, he isn't perfect, but neither am I and who is?  I have a great daughter, who every day I am thankful for.  I have great friends.  Life is good and 46 isn't so bad.


ladylinoleum said...

Happy Birthday lady! You're one of my fave peeps on the web. Thanks for always having the ability to make me smile.

Anonymous said...

Dear Deneen,
Your list is great and covers just about everything I can think of. Here is one more thing for your list.
APPRECIATION - I appreciate you for making my brother so happy - I appreciate you for being such a great mother and raising Elena to be such an amazing young lady - I appreciate that you don't sit in judgment of me for living my life the best way I know how - I appreciate that you don't get angry with me when I don't stay in close contact (I am quite a loner.)
I hope you birthday is fabulous and that you have time to be nice to yourself!
Love, Lisa

Walden said...

Happy Birthday!!

Vik said...

Happy Birthday my dear Deneen!! Feliz Cumpleaños!!
I so much agree with every single point of your list! Amen!
Hugs from Buenos Aires! Have a great year ahead!

Barbara said...

Happy Birthday Deneen!!!! I hope your birthday is everything you were hoping for.

Barbara Moore

Pearlin J said...

Happy Birthday Deneen

Daisy said...

Happy birthday! Hope it was a good one :)

Bairbre Aine said...

Happy Birthday! And thank you for the shared list of lessons learned!
I find each one useful! Cheers!

noricum said...

Happy birthday!

Anonymous said...

The list is wonderful. I was inspired to write my own list. Thank you.

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