Wednesday, February 07, 2007

In Case You Were Wondering

In the last post, I posed a picture of Elena with hair from hell. We have decided (her and her grandmother anyway) to let her hair grow out a bit. The problem is that she has thick, curly hair and well the dry heat at school and need for wearing of a hat for the cold, has made it an unmitigated mess. The top is heavy, straightening a little and just looks awful. She hates any type of hair ribbon, barrette, headbands, anything. She wears a headband to school, but it comes home in her backpack. I want to get the top trimmed, but now Elena is convinced that because of the weight of her hair, it will be straight (which it'll be less tight, but come on, straight?) Anyway, she has this in her head and her hatred of me brushing out her hair twice a day should come into play soon. But how can a squash this statement "I have dreamed of straight hair my entire life."?

17 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hey Deneen, is it worth perhaps purchasing a straightning iron (sp). I know here in Australia you can also get some stuff that you spray on that will stop any frizz, and you probably would only have to straighten it every 3 or 4 days. Let me know what you think

Sam

Deneen said...

Sam, she is such a bugger about doing anything with her hair. She hates me blow drying it and it's always a battle. I have tried the sprays, etc and I think the dry weather lately has just made a mess of her hair-it's so heavy, static abound. It's worth a try, but since I have curly hair, I know sometimes it's best just not to fight it.

Melissa said...

I was also going to mention the straightening iron. My SIL has very curly hair and uses a straightening iron on it. She has since she was about 11 or 12.

Have you tried using shampoos and conditioners especially for curly kids' hair? Sometimes that will help relax the curl. It definitely helps moisturize the hair so it's not so unruly.

Another option is to buy a perm that will straighten her hair. You can get them at Wal-Mart or any beauty supply shop. I'm not sure how the straightening perms work, so you'd have to check, but I knew people who used them and they worked wonders on their hair. Straightens like a dream. Just giving another option.

Jessica said...

How about teaching her to use some product in her hair? I have curly hair, too, and I love TRESemmé's shaping milk. It gets rid of the frizzies while not making it crunchy.

Have you considered getting her an appointment with a "grown-up" stylist who can probably convince her to shape her hair to help it grow out best?

Good luck!

Deneen said...

We did the "grown up stylist" thing and Elena semi-hated it, but was fine. The problem is they tend to cut curly hair too short when it's wet and then when it dries, ugh.

I'll have to check out the Tre semme shaping milk for her and for me. I get so itchy using products (some bother me something awful), but I did use some Biolage Curl Defining creme on her this AM. One of my purchases that didn't work for me, but maybe her. Most of the stuff has alcohol, which is drying.

I have to tell you, told her I had special hair stuff and she balked and balked, but it did look better after I used it.

I use special shampoo for her for curly hair, etc. She's a bugger and it's just the awkward stage of it-hopefully it'll pass sooner than later.

Cheryl :) said...

Isn't funny that those of us that have straight as a stick hair would love to have the curly stuff and the people with the curly hair want the straight as a stick stuff? Have you tried a flat iron on her hair??

busy91 said...

It is so funny, when you have straight hair you want curly and vice versa. Oh well. My daughter's hair is a nightmare, so I feel your pain.

Tracey said...

I have curly hair too, and I use Infusion 23 leave in conditioner. It helps to relax the curls in my hair. As for letting it grow out to straighten it, it might help a little, but in the end it will still be curly. If you get a straightening iron make sure it is a ceramic iron as it will not burn her hair.

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Chicksey said...

I long for curlies, but alas mine is straight. My mother and sister have the curls. I know you tried the grown up stylist route, but you might want to try finding one that knows curly hair and has it herself. My mom used to have an awful time at the hariddresser until she found a lady that truly understood a curly haired woman's tresses. As a bonus--maybe you can even get hte lady to talk to Elena about hair products and how they will help her.

My other suggestion would be to tell her she's too young to have it straightened, but if she still wants to when she's older (middle school) you'll let her do it then. Then she'll be able to see it's no picnic having straight hair either!

Deneen said...

I happen to have a mega-bottle of Infusium 23 in the cabinet also-used to use it on her hair and forgot-doh! moment.

Jessica said...

Definitely try to find a stylist who has curly hair of their own to deal with. I always had problems with getting my hair cut properly until I found my current stylist, who personally understands the trials and joys of having curly hair. He's great and has said that with curly hair himself, he would never, ever get his own hair cut by someone who had straight hair.

Amy O'Neill Houck said...

Tell her I've dreamed of hair like hers my entire life!!!

stacey said...

When I was growing up I always hated my hair and wanted nice straight hair that would lay smooth and look good. Instead I had frizz and curls and I hated it. I think you're doing the right thing bearing with it and letting it grow out--my ma had my hair cut short when I was about 5 because I used to hate having it brushed, and then everyone always thought I was a boy. When I was a teenager it took me four years to grow it out (during which time I had a mullet--eeew).

That Infusium stuff was really helpful when I had long hair.

Sue said...

Both my daughter and I have similar hair woes, Deneen. We've tried everything too and nothing really gave us that stick-straight swingy hair until we discovered the Remingon Wet 2 Straight flattening iron. Holy crow! That thing really works! It's so much easier than blow drying but it does take time as you have to go section by section. However, if you want shiney straight hair, this thing delivers.

Wendy said...

Deneen, I hear this all the time, though opposite.

Madeleine has curly hair and gets attention for it. Though it is a pain to brush and if I don't brush it every day it will start to dread and get matted. I know when she is older she will complain she wants straight hair like Sierra's. I know this because...

Sierra wants Madeleine's curly hair. She would do anything to not have straight hair. She loves Madeleine's hair and the attention that Madeleine gets from it and almost every day tells me she wants straight hair.

This is when I tell her that women always want what they don't have. I tell her that people with straight hair want curly hair and people with curly hair want straight hair. I tell her that she has beautiful hair and needs to learn to love what she has and live with what she has.

StitchLuva and Yarn said...

deneen, my son had pin straight hair until he was about 12 and then it got very course and wavy. he (is now 22)uses flat out shampoo and conditioner, combs it and then uses a small amount of styling creme and lets it air dry without combing it. it does not come out pin straight but it is smooth and shiny with less waves. he does not blow dry or anything else because that would be too much work! he also uses sunsilk straighten out shampoo, conditioner and the 24/7 creme, since i buy what's on sale) and this works also, but he said flat out is better.

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