Thursday, December 28, 2006

Resolutions

I never do New Year's resolutions, never-however, I will make an exception this year. After reading Busy's post the other day, it had me thinking. I try not to be a complainer, but know I come across as a bitchy whiner a lot. To make matters worse, I try to think of myself as the "glass is half full" sort, silver linings, all that crap. I also realize that negativity is a major downer and state of mind is important in keeping ones mental and physical health up to snuff. Anyway, I have decided my resolution will be to STOP COMPLAINING all the time, no whining. Busy's idea is good-7 days no whining, no complaining and I'll see how it goes from there.

Of course then Busy hit a small conundrum-what about complainers you are around? You all know I have "issues" with certain people in my life. I've been told previously to "cut them out like a cancer", but in reality, it's not so easy. I have found that by having my eyes glaze over and nodding at appropriate times, it works a little, although has bit me in the ass when something was mentioned a month later and I was clueless on said situation, but apparently nodded and agreed through it before. Busy mentioned “When you are complaining, you become a living, breathing “crap magnet.” and it's true-you become a downer and when I am around said complainer, it's as if a black cloud has stopped over my head. I often call it an "energy sucker" versus "crap magnet", but you get the idea.

Okay, no whining or complaining and if said person becomes whiny or complains a lot, instead of glazing and nodding or saying "OMG, does anything good ever come out of your mouth, you freaking ray of sunshine"-I will be nice, but repeat that complaining and whining is no longer allowed in my life and that I understand life isn't all rosy, but it's not all thorny either and perhaps someone else might be better to bounce the thoughts off of"-should go over like a fart in an elevator but worth a try-it sounds so much nicer than calling someone a "freaking ray of sunshine" doesn't it?

5 comments:

Sara said...

I've never thought of you as a "bitchy whiner." I've always found you to be a positive person and if you did have a complaint, you handled it very constructively. For instance, you wrote a funny post about it and moved on (I'm thinking about the summer of your pool "adventures"). Bitchy whiners obsess and never get over it.
You take your anger/frustration and turn it into something that makes people laugh.

busy91 said...

YAY! I have a partner in crime!

We'll keep each other motivated, at least for seven days.

Today is my full day of it. So far not so bad. Of couse the thoughts do creep up, but I cut them off at the pass. At least I can say no complaints have came out of my mouth.

And wouldn't you know, after I read your post, my mom called. LOL!

noricum said...

That sounds like a good plan to me. :) (Not that I think of you as a whiner, but it's always healthy to be more cheerful. :) )

Sue said...

That sounds like a great idea. Lucy already has me vowing to laugh more often. The no-complaining vow seems to go hand in hand. :o)

Cindy said...

I just read something about this. I can't find the post. The essence is that whenever this person is around a person who is complaining and whining she tunes out and looks for something good or positive in the person. She thinks about that. She also keeps telling herself that she doesn't have to respond with her own sob story.

Great resolution!!!!

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