I never do New Year's resolutions, never-however, I will make an exception this year. After reading Busy's post the other day, it had me thinking. I try not to be a complainer, but know I come across as a bitchy whiner a lot. To make matters worse, I try to think of myself as the "glass is half full" sort, silver linings, all that crap. I also realize that negativity is a major downer and state of mind is important in keeping ones mental and physical health up to snuff. Anyway, I have decided my resolution will be to STOP COMPLAINING all the time, no whining. Busy's idea is good-7 days no whining, no complaining and I'll see how it goes from there.
Of course then Busy hit a small conundrum-what about complainers you are around? You all know I have "issues" with certain people in my life. I've been told previously to "cut them out like a cancer", but in reality, it's not so easy. I have found that by having my eyes glaze over and nodding at appropriate times, it works a little, although has bit me in the ass when something was mentioned a month later and I was clueless on said situation, but apparently nodded and agreed through it before. Busy mentioned “When you are complaining, you become a living, breathing “crap magnet.” and it's true-you become a downer and when I am around said complainer, it's as if a black cloud has stopped over my head. I often call it an "energy sucker" versus "crap magnet", but you get the idea.
Okay, no whining or complaining and if said person becomes whiny or complains a lot, instead of glazing and nodding or saying "OMG, does anything good ever come out of your mouth, you freaking ray of sunshine"-I will be nice, but repeat that complaining and whining is no longer allowed in my life and that I understand life isn't all rosy, but it's not all thorny either and perhaps someone else might be better to bounce the thoughts off of"-should go over like a fart in an elevator but worth a try-it sounds so much nicer than calling someone a "freaking ray of sunshine" doesn't it?